Maybe you can see the light at the end of this COVID tunnel. Maybe you don’t see a light. Maybe the light is blinding.
But one thing we can all see is that people are feeling that sense of overwhelm. The burnout 😣.
This episode’s guest is Tiffany Dufu, and she literally wrote the book on how to deal with overwhelm. She was named Entrepreneur magazine’s “100 Powerful Women”, Fast Company magazine’s “League of Extraordinary Women,” and raised millions for women and girls. She’s the founder and CEO of The Cru, a peer coaching platform which matches women and accountability circles to help them realize their goals. She thinks we need to drop the ball.
“Dropping the ball means that I’ve released these unrealistic expectations of feeling like I need to do it all. And more importantly, that I’ve gotten clear about what matters most to Tiffany, and what my highest and best use is and achieving that. And how to get help from other people.”
That’s where it’s at.
And to get there, she thinks you should be asking what matters most to you. And as you read this and start mind-rattling off different aspects your life, consider ‘what you hope to achieve in relation to what matters most to you?”.
And then, what should you be doing (to achieve that)?
For Tiffany, it’s always been advancing women and girls.
💀☠ Do you know what it would say on your tombstone? 💀☠
Tiffany’s tombstone will say: “she got to as many women as she could”. Now that’s a driving force. And she encourages you, dear reader, to figure out your driving force for yourself, what gives you joy, and to go forth and create the life you’re passionate about.
“At the end of your life when people stand up, you don’t want them to stand up and say: Well, you know, she got a lot of things done off her to-do list! You want them to say something more impactful than that.”
So, listen and learn why you need a village (your cru) to hold you accountable. Find out how to delegate with joy. And why getting help isn’t always quid pro quo.
“I think that the universe of reciprocity is much bigger and more fluid than what we imagine it to be. The same person who could frequently pick my child up from school is not necessarily the one who needs me to pick up their child from school. What they need for me is usually something totally different. And don’t forget that every time you ask for help, you’re teaching, you’re modeling asking for help, to someone else. So, you’re giving that person permission to say, maybe I could ask for help with something.”
Just, wow! For more incredibly inspiring advice from Tiffany, listen to the full episode.